Awhile

It's been awhile since I've blogged, the expectant twins are in their 14th week now growing nicely. Mom,dad and Justin are excited. We will know their sexes in a couple weeks.

We saw the ultrasound last week WOW, technology has really been an amazing thing. We could see there heart beating and here it. WOW!!!!!! I am pumped.

I ran into an old friend recently in Jamaica, we were there for a few days, the whole family. He was telling us that, at least once a week he took his children,his son and daughter everywhere;To the bank, to lawyer, to the office, supermarket,etc. He reason for this, is that he wanted the everybody to know his children,it take a village to raise a child. i

I totally agree with him, it was like that when I was growing up before cellphones. You would get home from school and your parents told you where and what you were doing, you tried to deny it but you know it was true.

I personally think as a society, we need to go back to the old school way of raising our kids.

Talk to you soon

Scare

Got a call to at work today, that Kim had fell down the stairs at her job.
Panic set in, then I had to be calm. First, I wondered if she was OK, then I wandered if the twins were traumatized. I couldn't speak with her.

Eventually, I got there and took her to the ER as recommended by her midwife to check on the twins.We basically spent all day and all she got was a bandage and a crutch, I guess she didn't have a heart attack or a gun shot wound.

She is doing OK now, we have a check up tomorrow and an ultrasound also schedule.

It turn out better than I expected at first, so much for the scare.

talk to you soon

Reality

We are now entering the 10th week of our pregnancy. Kim sat me down and gave me the talk about me being too nonchalant about this pregnancy. I know it was not like the previous one with Justin. It's twins everything is different, more intense. It ranges from more doctors in the delivery room and the type of care we will need.

So I had to wake up and become more involved in the process.

Different

Happy July 4th to all. It was mostly a day of rest for me and the family. Justin and I went to the pool while mom stayed indoors relaxing because she was feeling tired. It was one of those days for her during the first trimester.

However, this pregnancy is different from the first, I guess I was more hyped with Justin than with the twins. Kim says that too, so I now have to make a conscious effort to become more aware of what I am doing. I still think I am being an effective team player, but I guess I am not hovering :-).

Twins are totally different ball game so I had to runout and get a book so Kim and I get caught up on what to expect. Well she reads it and pass the message on, so I will be well informed.

I am taking in the moment and most importantly, I have to keep Justin involved as I am so afraid of him feeling left out once these children are born. I spend time with him telling him about the babies and letting him know he is still number 1.

For three years, it has been the three of us, Now it's going to be the five of us. Don't get me wrong I am not complaining, but it takes a while to get accustomed to the number change.

God has blessed us with opportunity to spread our love and increase our family, so whom am I to question what is given to me. I will do my best to love and cherish these children and giving a sound base so I can prepare them for their future.

See you tomorrow

Being Thankful

While putting my son to sleep earlier tonight, I realised that there was so much to be thankful for. I have a bright young son, he is only 3 years-old but he acts so much like a man, trying to be in charge of everything.

We decided to give him some responsibility and let him be in charge of turning of all the lights in the house, which he is loving every minute. This is a way to let him feel involved and learn about conservation, saving energy.

We have also told him that we are expecting new babies and he will have two siblings. We let him know that mommy is have two babies growing in her tummy and one day soon he will see them. He kiss the mommy's tummy daily and letting them know he loves them. I am so proud of Justin, Its makes me very proud to be his dad, the feelings that goes through my body sometimes is overwhelming.

As for the twins sometimes, I am still in shock at the number, but I ask God for strength to be the best Dad I can be, to raise these children to the best of my ability along with their mom. To teach them the right values especially in today's society.

Todays World

I keep wondering what's going on in today's society,when you can read in the newspaper about a dad whipping his son so viciously that both parents are eventually arrested http://cbs4.com/local/glenn.tanya.chang.2.762019.html.I do know at times our children can frustate us, but we need to be aware that these are just kids learning life from us, we are the parents and we need to be patient with them. It's a phase that they go through and to see how far they can go.

I cannot judge anyone who discipline their child because I do my son,but there is a point where we should realize that we are the mature ones and this is how they learn and how we handle it will be how they handle confrontation in the future.

This is why the cycle of abuse continue throughout generations.

I just hope and pray that our society can change.

New Generation Dad Back in the Game

I have been working on re-establishing New Generation Dad magazine and website http://www.newgenerationdad.com/, so while that is in the process I am starting a blog.


The focus is empowering our children’s lives while uniting us as fathers.
I hope my daily blogs will help all dads, families and mentors reach and build our children which will inevitably build a stronger society.

So here goes..........

Time flies, it has been 3 yrs since I became a Dad. He was God's Gift to my wife ( Kim) and me. It seemed like yesterday that it was May 4, 2005 at 5:24pm when I was able to hold him in my hand at the hospital. My wife had a C-section so I was the one who held him and cut the umbilical cord. That was the greatest feeling I have ever had in my life.

Justin has grown so fast, what happened to my baby boy.

I was looking at him today, reminiscing on the times when I used to sleep at the edge of the bed ready to jump into action and feed him. Justin woke up every 2 hrs to eat and get a diaper change, so I had to burn the midnight oil.

Now he is running around, talking non-stop and imitating Dad. He wants to go everywhere with me.

It's an awesome feeling however, it has made me more aware of what I say and do because I am his world and whatever he sees my do and say will shape his future.

Therefore, I have lead by example, whether its my relationship with his mom, my friends or other people I come across on the journey of life.

I am not a perfect dad, I have my faults, but it’s my duties as a parent to cherish, lead and love him. I know there will be a lot of pitfalls lurking but I have got to be focused, not selfish. I have to show my son what it takes to be a man, the duties and responsiblities that comes with it.

So whatever he grows up to be it will be a reflection on what I taught him.